March 21, 2024

 

As I process the things that trouble me, I realize that I have coupled or tied my peace to other people’s choices, moods, and aims.

 

I have coupled my sense of efficacy to other people’s praise, affirmation and criticism.

 

I have coupled my identity to other people’s expectations, needs and desires.

 

I have coupled my aspirations to other people’s hopes, dreams and wishes.

 

I have even coupled my wellbeing to other people’s dysfunction, mental health issues and problems.

 

It is time to uncouple. I can no longer allow my identity, peace, and sense of worth to be driven by things outside of me. 

 

These things are inside work for a reason. 

 

How I see myself, feel and what I believe about my possibilities should never be determined by somebody else.

 

When I put my worth, hopes and aspirations in other people’s hands, I do something worst than leaving these things to chance, I leave them to things like:

 

-other people’s agendas 

 

-whims

 

-bias

 

-dysfunction

 

When I do not hold firm to my moral compass, emotional thermostat, and sense of self, I can be subjected to an emotional roller coaster that is exacerbated in toxic environments, codependent relationships and dysfunction.

 

I cannot couple my identity to work, my ability to protect or save others, or anything outside of my identity in Christ. When I do, I leave my very existence to something worst than chance.

 

This year, I am uncoupling my peace, identity, and wellbeing. This year, I will live unbound!

 

Happy 2024!